Ok, I’ll be the first to admit that this title does sound a little “hyped up” for me…
However, there is truth in my madness, as it really is possible to create instant happiness, peace, clarity and relaxation by controlling your emotions.
First of all, I’d like to address a few concepts and ideas before getting into the meat of today’s post. I’d like to look at the definition of happiness, so that we’re both on the same page before moving on.
For me, real happiness means letting go of stress, baggage, and suffering. When we release these negative states of mind from our lives, we’re left with mostly positives!
It only takes a moment to melt away stress through a moment of sheer acceptance of what “is”. That’s right, we’ll be using the ULTIMATE tool to create instant happiness… REALITY!
When you become a spectator to what’s happening RIGHT NOW in this very moment in your life, you begin to notice a few things. These “things” usually consist of the following:
- Your breathing
- Bodily sensations
- General feelings towards anything and everything
The more you pay attention to your “experience” of being conscious, the more you uncover. However, in doing this “mindfulness” based practice, what you achieve is separation from all of the areas on the bullet list above.
You’re no longer engaging with those areas, you’re witnessing them happen through experience and analysation…
This is quite remarkable, especially when you experience it for the first time. It’s like creating a space within yourself where you can sit and watch a “chaotic storm” from a safe place, until it dies down and becomes calm.
Take a moment out now from reading this blog post, and see what you notice about your experience of being alive. Notice how EVERYTHING merely appears in consciousness, without you needing to “do” or “manifest” anything. Things just happen, they simply arise in your experience.
What did you hear? Perhaps the sound of traffic outside? Did you feel pressure or tension in your back? An underlying mood of anger or stress? Take another moment to see what you feel WITHOUT trying to influence yourself in any way.
What you’re practicing is mindfulness meditation, and if you spend around 20 minutes per day using this technique science has shown that you’ll encounter numerous health benefits both mental and physical.
SO, getting back to the “instant happiness” stuff!
From the mindfulness technique mentioned above, I want you to pay particularly close attention to your emotions and underlying mood towards your experiences. If you feel anger or stress or any other negative mind state towards something, note it mentally AS you experience it.
For example, if you were using this method and you hear an annoyingly loud motorbike go past outside pay close attention to your reactions to this event. Does your back tense up? Do your muscles contract in any way? What happens to your breathing?
By noticing your reactions you separate yourself from them, and they instantly dissolve. Frequent practice of this method can actually result in you welcoming irritating sounds and situations as they help you to firmly ground yourself in the present moment.
You are in a very real sense in control of your emotions when you become a “witness” to your experience of being alive.
Don’t get me wrong negative reactions will take place within you, you’ll get thoughts pop into your head, aches and pains, and everything else that will try to pull you into the oblivion of stress. BUT, by simply watching those triggers you remove their power or “hold” over you.
This generates instant feelings of relaxation, peace, joy, and happiness. Happiness can only be experienced in the present moment, in fact, anything you ever experience can only take place in this continual moment we live in.
Mindfulness is the perfect practice to help you become more aware of your existence and the way in which you react to yourself and the world around you.
Wrapping things up…
Overall, by using mindfulness and meditation we can create a separation between our senses and our reactions to them. Through becoming more “aware” and present we can “watch” our moods rather than engaging with them, giving us more control over how we interact with ourselves and others.
The most common emotional responses to successfully having “observed” inner behaviour is relief and happiness (which can be observed too of course!).
And remember the best thing about this technique is that is produces INSTANT results!
I hope you’ve enjoyed today’s post, remember to “like”, “share”, and “comment” below!