So today I want to cut through the noise, and get real with you…
Do you feel as though you’re in the drivers seat of your life? Or to put it another way, do you take the “lead role” in your life?
It’s an odd question when you think about it, because it brings with it the possibility that you might “not” be the one in control of your actions, thoughts, and results.
Deep down I think most of us know that we shape our own destinies, however, sometimes we can get stuck playing a “role” for others, putting ourselves and our dreams at the back of our minds, and in some cases (sadly a lot of them!), they never see the light of day.
Another scenario is where other people tell us what they think we should be doing, and because of our lack of self-confidence and belief, we just go along with it. We become puppets in “their” play…
You may have guessed this is a post about leadership, but with a twist, it’s about taking the reigns on your OWN life, instead of worrying about leading others.
When we DON’T take the lead role in our lives, others are quick to grab the reigns and take over. They’ll push and pull us in all kinds of directions. In fact, it’s often more than one person who takes over, you could have people in all areas of your life basically running the “You Show”.
While some people may feel comforted in this situation, as if the weight and pressure of making decisions and choices has been lifted from them, it’s not healthy and it’s ultimately not fulfilling.
So what does it mean to take the “lead role” in your life? What would that look like?
Well, the benefits would include just SOME of the following:
- You make your own choices.
- Your decisions sculpt your results.
- You feel accountable for your decisions and learn from them or feel gratitude towards them.
- People appreciate and respect you more.
- People give you space and time to do the things you want in life.
- And much more…
When we take the time to start making decisions based on what’s right for “us” in life, we create space and direction. Other people who want to “push and pull” us all over the place are then cleared from view, as they notice that we’re taking the reigns, and that there’s no room or “need” for them to intervene.
In our personal lives taking the lead role shows the ability to create fun, enjoyment, productivity, love, compassion, and it also has an attractiveness to it.
In the workplace taking the lead role shows initiative, courage, good decision making skills, productivity and creativity.
In both areas learning to become a deciding force in your life only has positives. Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t take advice or listen to others, but learn to take what’s useful and beneficial to you, and to block out what isn’t!
It’s common sense…
So here’s an awkward and thought provoking idea,
“How do you know if you’re NOT taking the lead role in your life?”…
To figure out the answer to this question, you need to start paying attention to the people and influences in your life. Do others tell you what to do often and do you find yourself “doing as you’re told”?
Do you find yourself getting sucked into advertising in its many forms?
If we take in ALL influences around us like a sponge, we become a product of everything surrounding us. That means people, products and ideas will fuel us to become anything THEY decide upon.
Now for any psychologists reading this I know that this is ultimately what happens to us all, however, having the power to CHOOSE which influences we take in is VITAL to our happiness.
And that’s the key point right there. Take the lead role in your life and make choices that lead you closer and closer towards happiness and contentment. Learn to enjoy the journey towards happiness. YOU are the writer, director and lead actor in your own play, so create something satisfying!
Wrapping things up…
Overall, by taking more ownership over our lives we can experience real happiness, direction and satisfaction. If we allow others to influence us, pushing and pulling us in any way they wish, we become disconnected from ourselves, which leads to unhappiness and negative emotional states.
I hope you’ve enjoyed today’s post, remember to “like”, “share”, and “comment” below!