I’m fairly certain that one of the most damaging and draining things you can do in life is “talk yourself down”…
Just think about this for a second, as it occurs FAR more often than it should, and usually goes completely unnoticed. It’s a dangerous plague that seeps into our lives in stealth mode, attacking and removing self belief like there’s no tomorrow.
How many times have you “talked yourself out” of something? An idea, goal, or opportunity?
When you stop and think about it, you realise how much negative self talk has impacted your life. We’ve all been victim to it in one way or another, even those who seem to have made it to “the top” in life.
Negative self talk appears in many areas of life, from goals, work, career, relationships, self image, healthcare and so on…
However, it becomes VERY dangerous when we make a habit out of negative self talk. Why? Because this is where real transition takes place moving us from thinking badly to believing we ARE “bad”. We become the contents of our thoughts.
This isn’t through some wanky medium, it’s simply through forming habits and taking action upon those behavioural patterns over time. Negative self talk truly is the enemy of self improvement.
So what can you do about it? How do you eliminate it??
Removing self talk from your life completely is a fairly ambitious goal, and I’m not even sure if it can be done. BUT, there is a trick you can use to stop negative self talk from taking hold of your life. It becomes like a passing cloud that only impacts you if you let it.
You may have guessed that my remedy for eliminating self talk is mindfulness. Mindfulness is the BEST tool for noticing and realising our own mental habits and thought patterns. How can you “fix” a mind issue without knowing what goes on up there in the ole noggin?
Here’s a useful exercise that will show you your minds automatic response to events, and whether it’s healthy or damaging…
Mindfulness Exercise For Noticing Self Talk:
Simply start to think about an area of your life that you want to improve. If possible, think about an area that usually causes you to put “obstacles” in the way of you taking action. Something that may bring about procrastination.
Now “watch” your thoughts and see what happens. Notice what you “tell” yourself…
Is it good or bad?
It’s also useful here to note, who is it you’re talking to? If you already know something, why do you have to “retell” it to yourself? Isn’t it a little bizarre?
This exercise is BEST performed when actually facing an opportunity to see how you react in the moment. So for best results try becoming more mindful in your everyday life.
Get to know your mind and how it thinks about YOU when on autopilot. Once you’ve got some results, you’ll realise that these thoughts no longer have such a strong hold over you, since you’ve created some space between THEM and YOU, where you now “watch” from.
The next step is to throw your old negative thoughts in the trash since you can see they’re just an old programmed response, and instal new healthy habits instead!
Wrapping things up…
Overall, eliminating negative self talk really comes down to becoming more mindful. How does your mind automatically respond to events to do with “you”? Could these thoughts be a result of years of conditioning and environment? The answer is “yes” regardless of what you think 😉 (Woah a bit sarky there?!)
Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations and a healthy mindset so that you start taking opportunities and doing the things you’ve always wanted to in life.
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