In all of our lives, we’re constantly going through changes. Whether we notice them or not, changes are occurring all the time. How do you cope with these transformations? Are you reluctant to move with the times? Do changes scare you? Or do you embrace new things in your life?
On the surface some changes can create fear within us, we become nervous about what “might” happen next. Sometimes a change can seem negative initially, but over time new opportunities and positives are born out of it.
The most important point about change is that it is inevitable in all areas of your life. There is nothing you can do to sustain anything forever, as external and internal events will cause you to grow into something new.
However, none of the above has to be framed as “negative”, even if the initial event seems so. Depending on our perspectives and reactions to situations, we can either progress from them OR regress to a negative emotional state.
When you put it as I have above, it seems almost insane to allow ourselves to have harmful or bashful reactions to scenarios. It’s like when you get a hangover from drinking too much the night before, self-inflicted pain!
So how do you learn to embrace all changes both positive and negative? It all comes down to your perspective on the situation and life in general. Are you a pessimist or an optimist? Or are you a little of both?
The fact that we know change is inevitable means that this is something we really “should” learn to deal with. Otherwise as time goes on we will either flourish OR deteriorate depending on our points of view.
Firstly, the best way to embrace change is to “search” for the positives in all situations. This can be very easy is the event is obviously positive say for example a job promotion. BUT, when something difficult to deal with is passing, things can be a little more complex.
Dealing with changes such as death, redundancy, relationship break-ups, addiction and so on are typically labelled as “negative”. How can you find any positives in those areas?
The law of “changes” works for us in our favour within the above negative scenarios since things WILL change again. Knowing that all things must pass helps us to look to the future for comfort, clarity and positive opportunities.
Redundancy could mean that you get an opportunity to finally work the career of your dreams. It could mean spending more time with your family and friends.
Break ups are tough at the start, but as you learn to “live again” new relationships will form and emotional scars will heal…
Death is always a hard change to deal with, especially if the death is of someone very close and dear to you. Though over time, death can become easier to come to terms with. The person we’re now missing would want us to be happy and to move on with our lives, which IS a positive.
Positives can be found in almost every scenario if you seek them out, and it’s the easiest and most effective way to embrace change. It’s also worth noting that it’s:
- Not worth fighting against changes, since they have already happened and there’s nothing you can do to alter things back to the way they used to be.
Before you learn to spot the positives inside of a “life-changing” event, you must accept the circumstances that have happened. Without acceptance there is resistance, and resistance to reality is unhealthy.
How many times have you heard people say, “(name) is living in a dreamworld”? This is usually because they refuse to accept what is, and they let their imagination and stubbornness rule their mentality.
So it’s a two step method:
- Accept reality in life, so that you can see with clear vision all the factors of a situation
- Search for the positives within a “change”
If you can master this process then you will be able to move through life with minimal aggravation and stress. You will be labelled an “optimist” which is far more positive than being called a pessimist!
As things stand in your life at present, do you feel that you may have resisted certain changes? Are you still resisting them? Now is the time to let go of unneeded stress, so that you can finally move on with your life instead of pushing against “reality”.
Learn to accept what has happened, search for a positive (even if you can only find one it’s better than nothing!), and live by this new optimistic perspective you have created.
Once you get used to this method, you will find it very easy to search for the positives in all events and circumstances. Life becomes a tad “lighter”, as you realise it isn’t all doom and gloom.
We have the ability to program our minds to work positively for us, instead of letting negative “auto-pilot” reactions rule our thought processes.
What are the benefits you’ll gain after using these ideas?
- Less stress
- The ability to move on with your life AND to let go of previous “emotional baggage”
- Become an optimist
- Learn to see all positives from situations which can sometimes test our patience!
From such a simple mind-set “shift” huge positive alterations can occur in your life. These changes will ripple out into your social circles, relationships and workplaces. Who knows what opportunities will come your way due to this new and improved version of you?
I hope you’ve enjoyed this blog post.
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Rob J. Temple