I’ve talked about this idea before a few times, but I feel it deserves an entire post dedicated to the topic.
Have you ever sat down and truly thought out what success means to you?
Because unlike what the media, your friends, family and even partners broadcast as “success”, doesn’t make it factual for you.
Success is RELATIVE! Which means your version may be different from everyone else’s on this planet, and it most likely is, though it may share some similarities with others.
One of the main causes of depression and unhappiness in life is chasing the medias portrayal of success. Fame, money, sex, drugs, drink, looking cool (designer clothes, public image), it’s all egocentric and unfulfilling.
Some of the above provides short-term pleasure, but they definitely do NOT create long-term happiness (another topic I’ve spoken about before)…
But without ever asking yourself the question, “What does success really mean to me?”, you may well find yourself being scooped up by the media and those around you, chasing a fake imitator of success or somebody else’s version of satisfaction.
Neither of which will provide you with fulfilment, happiness and gratitude. Perhaps this has already happened to you? Or maybe it’s happening right now?
Without defining what success means to you, how do you ever expect to enjoy the journey of life?
Self-improvement is a never ending journey, but it’s an incredible one. You don’t work on yourself once and then live the rest of your life in pure bliss, unfortunately that’s just not the way it goes.
It’s a continual process, which enhances day by day, giving you peace and contentment throughout your life experiences with a few huge bonuses along the way (achieving any goals you set!).
Because of these factors of true happiness, it’s vital that you define what goals will make you happy in life, and what success means to you. Only then can you take action that will reward you with joy and satisfaction, otherwise you’ll most likely be helping others achieve their version of success (even though they may be in the same boat as you at their core).
So grab a pen and paper, and get ready to uncover what success means to you…
First, we need to inspect each area of your life at present, i.e.:
- Work life
- Family life
- And anything else you think up on your own that’s applicable
List out everything you can that represents life to you at the moment in each of the sections above.
Then, you need to replace or edit the points on your list so that you make a more accurate picture of what success means to you WITHIN those areas.
Some of the above areas may not be applicable to you, so obviously skip them unless you want to create something in that section.
When defining success, it’s VERY important that you notice whether your answers are coming from YOU or not. For example, you may need to go deep within your mind to work out whether you have been conditioned to buy into a “fake” version of success.
One of the hardest parts of self-improvement is peeling back the layers of your conditioning to find a version of yourself that feels more like “home”. The media is amazingly good at selling us ideas and goals in life that we don’t really want, but they seem like a solution to our boredom at the time.
The only real solution is defining what success means to you, and living by those values. So take some time to think this through, perhaps go for a walk and gently examine these ideas in your mind as you take in your surroundings.
You may not get instant answers to all the areas, but the more you look for happiness within instead of allowing yourself to be conditioned externally, the better off you’ll be.
Wrapping things up…
Overall, when we define success in our lives without thinking about anyone else’s picture of success, we create something beautiful and meaningful. Without defining success, we leave ourselves open to conditioning and making goals that we don’t “really” care about deep down.
Remember, success is relative, what works for you may not work for the next person.
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