Most people who learn about self improvement discover pretty fast that failing is an essential component for success.
How can you ever expect to reach the end goal if you never attempt to win?
Winning rarely occurs on the first go round, we’ve all seen those “squiggly line diagrams” showing the real route to success. It’s not a straight line from “A to B”, it’s like looking at the curliest piece of wire connected at two points.
BUT, bearing all this in mind, why is it that the “fear of failure” still reigns supreme in most people’s minds?
We know that we must fail to succeed. In fact, here’s a generic self improvement quote for you from that mentality:
“Success comes to those who dare to fail fastest”…
Without dipping your toe in and taking some action, you’ll never fail, and if you never fail, how do you ever expect to succeed?
The fear of failure stops even those who KNOW that they must fail multiple times in order to see some decent results. I admit, sometimes during a path to success you can begin to wonder if things will ever pay off, I think that’s only natural. BUT, it’s in those moments of doubt and fear that true leaders and success stories are born.
It all comes down to courage and perspective. What is the function of fear? Have you wondered what fear really means? It means protection of some kind. Being fearful supposes that there’s something at “risk” of being lost.
But that doesn’t quite make sense when we think about our goals and aspirations. Fear is the protection of something that could be “lost” before we’ve even generated the results we’re fearful about losing. (I dare you to read aloud that tongue twister!)
The only thing fear could possibly “believe” that it can protect before you’ve achieved a result is your “public image” i.e. your reputation. However, nine times out of ten this is blown completely out of proportion in our minds.
If this sounds like you it’s time to GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY!!
Failure needs a serious rebranding, especially for those who know about this stuff but STILL let it stop them from progressing…
So… to answer the question this blog post title asks, how many failures does it take to succeed? Honestly, there’s no clear cut answer.
BUT, what I can tell you is that there will be failures, and quite possibly many of them. The key to reframing failure into a positive begins with noticing that fear is a form of protection. So the next time you feel like fear is getting the better of you, realise that you’re unconsciously trying to protect something.
If that “thing” is your identity, reputation, or anything OTHER than your safety and the safety of others, get out of your own way and just DO THE THING!
Wrapping things up…
Overall, there is no clean cut answer to how many failures it takes to succeed. BUT, you can bet your ass that you’ll encounter many scenarios considered to make you a “failure” along the way to success.
Think about this like evolution by natural selection. Those that continue along the path to success have a greater chance of survival, those that don’t… go extinct!
Remember, you are in control of the way you perceive events and labels such as failure. Ultimately, a “failure” in the conventional sense doesn’t apply to those who work through hard times until they reach success.
Frame failure in the way that works for you, so that you can move past it and create massive results in your life.
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